Not for my mom..

My husband is a little grumpy this morning. I think because he didn't get any. This blog may be a bit TMI for some people...but as I've said in the past...If you don't like it-Don't read it! If you have no desire to hear about my sex life-stop reading! I know every couple is different, just like every child develops differently. Some children walk early, some talk late. It just depends, in my opinion not much too worry about.  Parents often brag about their children's accomplishment and openly discuss delays. Seeking comfort from each other or encouragement. One thing I don't often hear other mommies discuss is their sex life. I often wonder, what's normal? My assumption is that its all normal. What ever "normal" means. Never, once a month, once a week, everyday. Although, I believe for most married with children couples, everyday is not as common. Parents are tired.  Especially if you have young kids.  Although, last week my husband and I did do "IT" every day. We get jokes all the time, when it comes to how many kids we have,  asking if we have any other hobbies. The funny thing is that when we made #4, Things were not going well between us, we hadn't touched each other in months...I know for sure it was two. It was a stressful time and finding out I was pregnant was the last thing I expected. In retrospect, baby #4 was a saving grace. Anyway, the point is...I think in relationships, the amount of sex varies depending on circumstances. We have definitely had dry spells. We are currently not in one, quite the opposite. Good to know, huh? I am fortunate to have a very attentive husband. He touches me like I'm a super model and he can't get enough of every inch. I think if it were up to him it would be everyday, all the time. I know that may not be the situation for every relationship, as it has not always been the case in past relationships for me.
The other night in the hotel room, when all the kids were crying, my hubby was mouthing dirty suggestions, over their heads. It made me wonder if my own parents were like that? I know, a gross thought, but as children we only view them as our parents, not as adults in a relationship. It amuses me that our kids are being parented, yet during that interaction, my husband and I are having our own flirtatious interaction. An interaction that my kids are completely oblivious to. Never knew mom and dad were more than mom and dad, until I became them.
When I'm feeling good about myself, sexy, close to him, and we are getting along our sex life is great. When I am stressed, grumpy, tired, or pissed at him, sex is the last thing on my mind. That being said, he is pretty much on stand-by, regardless of my mood. I'm frumpy...he's down! I'm angry, tired, happy...he's down! I love him for it. He makes me feel wanted and beautiful. If I feel wanted and beautiful...then I'm down too! We make the kind of love that you read about in romance novels. Ridiculous! I know right? I don't say I'm happily married lightly. I mean it and our sex life is a reflection of that. We do "It" a lot. We are happy! If you haven't done it in awhile-Go for it tonight! I myself hate feeling like its an obligation, but in a way it is. We do "owe" it to our partners. We deserve to feel wanted and so do they. If you just did it-Do it again! If you really, really don't feel like it- Do it anyway!  Fake it til you make it as they say! I have often noticed that we save our best selves for those outside of our homes. Kindness for the grocery store clerk. Patience for the bank teller. Forgiveness for our friends. We can be lame at home, short-tempered, and grumpy. Tonight, treat your spouse to your best self. Be kind and caring, Show them they are safe in your arms. Show them what the life you have means to you. Show each other that being together is the best place on earth. Treat each other better than anybody else does. Hold them. Love them. Then F their brains out!